I must admit that I spent a portion of my life trying to find someone to complete me. Most of my efforts centered around my relationships, particularly romantic ones.
This romanticized idea of someone completing us fits great in the context of a movie love story, but when it comes to real life, it’s a really dangerous thing to believe.
Women are notorious for seeking out relationships with others who will make us feel more complete. We attempt this by changing who we are, talking differently, endorsing things we don’t feel good about, and obsessively being available when we aren’t.
I can’t lie: I tried this. I waited by the phone for hours for someone to call. When he didn’t, I felt incomplete.
I painted my toenails the color another boyfriend preferred. When his color preference wasn’t enough to keep him around, I scrambled to find another way to make him stay. I thought my completeness depended upon his endorsement of me.
This idea of completeness is possible…just not through human relationships, including marriage. A partner was meant to compliment, not complete another’s life. Colossians 2:10 tells us about the only way completion is truly possible when it says: “and you are complete through your union with Christ.”
I don’t know what you’ve tried to find completeness. Maybe you are like me and sought it in your relationships. Or maybe you have never found it, yet you keep on searching. If you’re looking for something needing no addition…nothing supplemental or extra, look no further.
You are complete in Jesus.
Resources…
Behind Those Eyes: What’s Really Going on Inside the Souls of Women by Lisa Whittle
The 7 Hardest Things God Asks a Woman to Do by Lisa Whittle
Something Else…
Check out this clip from Jerry Maguire…”You complete me.”
Lisa Whittle relishes her roles as coordinator of She Seeks, family girl, and daughter of Jesus. She no longer paints her toenails any color but what she wants, which is typically a dark shade of purple. Find out more about Lisa at www.lisawhittle.com.
What have you done to try and feel complete? Leave Lisa a comment here.
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Thank you!!! This is exactly what I needed to be reminded of right now.
Me too.
Thank you , great encouragement!!!
I fully understand this. I was married, and after my divorce, I went searching for someone so I wouldn’t be alone. I have come to realize that Jesus is the one who completes me–not a human relationship of any kind. I know who I am in Christ! Amen!
I used to put on this persona of “i dont need anybody, im stronger than that” but the truth is is that i did crave that human attention i just did nothing about it which to me is just as bad. You see, i was in denial. & the mere act of “not caring” was what i did for that attention for that need for someone to complete me. I’ve come to terms and am learning just how much God completes me.
Kathleen…I’m thankful God used this to touch your heart today.
Nicole…thank you for stopping by. Grateful it was encouraging to you.
Ruth…I hear you, and I’m so glad to hear of your perspective. God truly is ALL we need.
Lisa you blessed my heart with this! Keep writing we need to hear it…