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Good morning beautiful ladies of Christ. I was about to post this question on yahoo, when I felt like it would be better to heed to the word of God and seek godly advice. I feel as though I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place and so I’ve been praying about this alot, waiting for the Father to help me. This is my situation. I started a new job two months ago, and immediately when I started I met this amazing, intelligent, gentle, kind hearted man. We became friends and we started sitting together very often reading and sharing the word with each other. He has been such an inspiration to continually want to read and understand the word more. We speak about everything and one of the things that we spoke about was sex before marriage. My view and lifestyle is that God created sex for marriage and that it is something that two poeple who are brought together as man and wife should engage in. His view is similar to mine, but his lifestyle doesn’t reflect those views. He is in a steady relationship and currently lives with his girlfriend. My problem comes in here. Each day that we converse, I grow a little bit more attached to him, I’ve been praying for a man with all the characteristics that his portrayed. He leads me in a way that no guy ever has. My heart tells me that he might be the one, but I am so confused by this, as he has a girlfriend, who probably believes that she is going to marry him. Last night while praying about this, I asked God to give me a word, and I was led to Proverbs 21:1, the Lord directs the kings thoughts, He turns them whereever he wants to. I need clarity on this scripture and it’s meaning in reference to my life. I dream about marrying this man, on saturday night I dreamt that I had put a ring on his finger and confessed that I would love him until death do us part. I don’t understand this because I know that his in a relationship and I don’t want to hurt anyone. To add to that, I’m not even sure how he feels about me. Please give me some advise sisters and please pray for me, as I am praying for you. Thank you!
Good morning Kavita.
I want to say congratulations on meeting such a wonderful spiritual man. After reading what you said I think your own moral compass is helping you with your situation. He is in a relationship and is living with his girlfriend. Therefore it has to be somewhat serious. When God gave your Provervs 21:1 I looked it up in The Message bible which says
Proverbs 21
God Examines Our Motives
1Good leadership is a channel of water controlled by God; he directs it to whatever ends he chooses.
Therefore I think this is God’s way of saying that it is not time yet and he needs to choose what needs to be done when you have started to dream and form your opinions on the situation.
I hope this does not sound harsh and again it is my opinion that I felt like God wanted me to share. It may not be what you want to hear but God has a plan for you and your life and you will find that special someone. Who knows it may be the gentleman you are talking about just at a later time when you get to know each other better.
Hello Kavita,
If what you notice about this man does not line up with what your idea of a Godly relationship would be, then it probably isn’t from God. He is already displaying that he says he does not uphold values that he “says” he believes in (red flag). Remember that God does not want you to be unequally yoked. What does that mean? That means that if he does not have the same passion for Christ and values as you do, then you are unequally yoked. You must see eye-to-eye. It sounds to me, from what you have written, that you are two different levels, spiritually speaking. Also, before trusting any dream, did you pray about it? Perhaps it isn’t from God.
I was in a relationship with a person for five years who was not on the same spiritual level as myself. He would do things I did not agree with, but I just went along with it thinking that we were right for each other (I was very wrong to do that). I just couldn’t help but think something just wasn’t quite right. That was the Holy Spirit telling me that the relationship wasn’t lining up with his plan for me. It took me a while to really see that I was making a terrible mistake. Thankfully, by God’s grace and His answer to my prayers, he sent me the husband meant for me…in His time!
Speaking from my own experience!!
Love,
Jessie W.
It is funny this story was posted about being in a relationship for five years. I wanted to post my story as well. I married my husband whom I have been with for five years. He exhibited all the characteristics of a godly man while we were courting. Now that we are married those things are far from him. I love my husband dearly, although I do not agree with everything he does, I felt the nudge of the Holy Spirit saying we are not equally yoked. I also felt the nudge not to be too pious and say that I am more religious than he. I studied Corinthians trying to seek an answer and prayed to god to the correct path for me before I was to get married. I married him in the end, but I beg that you but your desires aside and seek God with your whole heart. I understand better now how god allows us to make choices. He does not force his will on qnyone, but gives us scripture to discern what path we should take. I pray that you to continue seeking god’s face in your decison.
Thank you Kimberly. That was not harsh at all, in fact it was an eye opener. I really needed to understand what God was saying to me. I will just be patient, whilst waiting on a response, I came across this beautiful scripture which nourished my spirit a little bit more. Isaiah 49:23 “Kings and queens shall serve you; they shall care for all your needs. They shall bow to the earth before you, and lick the dust from off your feet; then you shall know I am the Lord. Those who wait for me shall never be ashamed”. I am so blessed by this scripture and I will wait upon the Lord for His perfect timing for me
Thank you so very much Kimberly
Thank you Kimberly. That was not harsh at all, in fact it was an eye opener. I really needed to understand what God was saying to me. I will just be patient. Whilst waiting on a response, I came across this beautiful scripture which nourished my spirit a little bit more. Isaiah 49:23 “Kings and queens shall serve you; they shall care for all your needs. They shall bow to the earth before you, and lick the dust from off your feet; then you shall know I am the Lord. Those who wait for me shall never be ashamed”. I am so blessed by this scripture and I will wait upon the Lord for His perfect timing for me
Thank you so very much Kimberly
Kavita,
Our human understanding is so limited that we can not fully see the purpose of what God is doing until after the fact. To be honest, just wait on God. Do not lean on your own understanding.
Allison
Just a couple of questions: are you building an emotional relationship with this man that excludes his girlfriend? or is she also becoming a friend? The answer may say alot of his character and would you be happy and trusting of him if your “dream” came true? Also, should you really be coveting a relatship with this man if he is in a relationship with another woman? Just a few honest questions and searching the scriptures will bring clarification and truth. I encourage you as a believer to keep looking to our Father’s truths that he has given us in the Bible. He never changes, his thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are not our ways. We must constantly be in the Word to battle the enemy who is the father of lies. I will be praying for you and your situation.
In sisterly love,
Joyce
To piggyback off of Joyce’s comment regarding building an emotional connection with this man… we as women have to be so careful on who and how we allow ourselves to become emotionally attached to a man. In Proverbs, God tells us to guard our hearts, for from it flows the well spring of life. You have clearly attached yourself to this man in the greatest way we can attach ourselves as woman to man, next to the intimate union of man and wife. While there is no bad time to share God’s word with another, I would go a step further to say that, in this case, you need to pull away from that connection and either reach out to another female to fellowship with, or just spend time, one-on-one with God. Not only is this unfair to the “girlfriend” of this man, I would not appreciate my man spending daily time with another woman at work this way, but it is unfair to you to establish such a strong emotional connection to a man who is otherwise already engaged with a woman, whether or not it is an engagement according to God’s word. It may be that you need to be blunt with him and share with him that you feel the need to separate yourself from him because of the emotional ties that are building and that your coveting him when he has yet obligated himself to another, you feel is wrong. Your heart is important to God and you must take steps to protect yourself from the hurt and sorrow that could inevidably come from this man you are emotionally tieing yourself to.
If God does have a purpose in your connection with this man, it will be important for you to see him walk in integrity, i.e., living what he says he believes, before you could safely assume that God intends this man to be with you. If this man feels the same draw to you as you to him, it would seem that he would be willing to separate himself from his current girlfriend, as well as you, for a period of time to allow God to reveal His direction and purpose for the both of you.
I know all to well the hurt and sorrow and deep deep wounds that occur when we allow a man access to the depths of our souls before God has authorized such. I plead with you to stop now, step back and really truly be willing to allow God to protect you and speak to your heart…
In His name…
~Marlo
Dear Joyce
Thank you for your comment. Him and I work together, I don’t know his girlfriend. In so far as your comment, I agree, I would not want to be with someone knowing that I’ve built my relationship on another person’s unhappiness. But having said that I can assure you that this is a man of intergrity and he has done absolutely nothing wrong. He has in no way invoked or provoked an emotional attachment with me, it has been done soley out of my own misunderstanding of things. When I posted this post, I deeply confused and I sought something that I had envisioned essentially out of loneliness and the desire to actually have a man of his caliber in my life. To date, I have overcome all of those emotions and I am just trusting God that the one that is right for me will come along in God’s perfect timing. It appears from the things that have been happening in his life that he is unhappy in his current relationship, what I find most odd, is that even before I knew anything about him, I was praying for my partner, and I prayed that if my partner was in a relationship with someone who was not the one for him that God would open his eyes to it. I went on to pray that if my future spouse was engaging in any sexual sin that God would deliver him from it, and last year around this time, I prayed that God would sent me my partner and that he would have a little beauty spot on his cheek. The friend of mine about whom the initial post was, has a beauty spot on his face, he has told me honestly that he hasn’t been intimate in a while and that he was considering being single so that he could find himself. I don’t know if that means anything in my life, only God knows and even though I am not actively persuing a relationship with him, If it be the Father’s will then it will be done. My love story is in the Father’s hands
I’ve enjoyed reading stories and comments by so many other women! It’s encouraging to see women come alongside other women and lift them up in prayer to our Loving Father. To all you prayer warriors out there, I’m asking for prayer for a health issue. I’m young and I eat fairly healthy and exercise almost every day but still I struggle with this health issue. It’s not fatal, or anything, thank God, but it’s more just annoying. The good news is that we now have health insurance so I hope to be on the way to recovery soon. I think health issues do often have spiritual roots. For me personally I struggle with fear, anxiety and sometimes bitterness. I think that these things can have an adverse affect on your health. However, I have confessed these things to God and asked him to forgive me. I’m trusting that He has removed them as far as the east is from the west. I am healed. I am clean. I am forgiven. I am made new. I am “the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus”. And I know He has ransomed me from the power of the grave and given me everlasting life. I am His precious child, and I honestly believe He wants me to be healed of this health issue. So, my question is, if I’ve confessed these spiritual roots, is it time to seek help from a doctor? Or is that like telling God He isn’t enough? To some this may seem like a nonsensical question… I’m pretty sure I’m going to seek help from health professionals. I don’t want to have this the rest of my life. I guess this post has talked about me a lot. I know I need to “lift up my eyes to the hills. Where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of Heaven and Earth.” Please pray for God to guide me about what treatment to seek and that He will bring healing and good through this situation.
Yes, some of our own thoughts and fears, anxiety can be a result of our health. Look to foods and herbs to heal you from these. There are several ways to heal yourself naturally, maybe just changind your diet can help, God gave us all the ‘herbs of the mountains’ Prov. 27:25 BUT if you need a doctor by all means see him. Remember the Lord loves you and He wants the best for you and you are His child, who He tenderly loves. I’ll be praying for you and hope that you heal quickly. Jeremiah 30:17 For I will restore you to health; An I will heal you of your wounds, declares the Lord. In His name, Brenda
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Hi All! I’m Erin, and I’m new. New to this site, new to belief, and newly engaged! (Well, fairly newly engaged.) I’m a Children’s Librarian in small town Maine. I’m excited to hear from all of you!
Welcome Erin! We’re glad to have you! I used to work at a library here in Ohio.
Hey Erin! Welcome aboard! I am new to this site as well and I cannot tell you how much I have already been blessed! Congrats on your engagement and I am so happy to welcome you as a new Christian. I love that you are a Librarian. I am actually about to finish school to be an English teacher, but Librarian was my next choice. I absolutely love to read lol! I hope that we can be an encouragement to you in your walk and as you prepare for marriage. I have only been married a year and a half, so I can twll you, its not always easy. So hold on to your faith and remember this tip: PRAY TOGETHER! It is important for and your husband to have your own time with God, but you must together as well. That will ensure the devil has no foothold in your marriage! Well, take care and I pray all the happiness in the world for you!
Happy New Year!
From your new sister in Christ,
Brooklyn
Hey! I’m so glad that I found this site. I just recently got a job as an Operation’s Assistant, and I also just recently got engaged! I love God with all my heart and know that without Him, I would have nothing. He is my everything!
Hi Ashley! Congratulations on your new job and your recent engagement! God is so good! I know I’m new to this site too, but welcome! It’s good to meet another Sister in Christ!
Thank you Erin! Congrats on your new engagement and for your new found belief! It is definitely good to meet you and other Sisters in Christ! It’s always good to get fresh perspectives and advice and to help encourage each other in our journeys of faith!
Hi. I’m a young woman (19) living in Southern Pines NC. I don’t have a clue what I believe. I was not raised in a church, infact I have only been inside a church once in my life (for a funeral no less) so needless to say I am a little afraid of going to church. I want very badly to have a relationship with God, I feel like apart of my life is missing and that I could gain alot spiritually from attending a church (maybe some tools to help me find my relationship with God).
I don’t want to be judged at a church. My parents are atheiset and I have been taught all my life that science is the truth and that religion is a coping mechanism for people that can not accept that when you die you are just dead. Now, obviously I don’t believe that but it’s all I’ve ever been taught and it has been drilled into my brain to question EVERYTHING. People of God always say they just “have faith”. I don”t understand that and until I do I don’t think I will beable to breakdown this barrier and have a relationship with God.
I am also married and have a young daughter. I want her to grow up with good morals and to never have this fear I do. I want her to have a community of people to help her and guide her.
Please give me some insight… I’m a little lost…. Also, my husband who I love and is very supportive believes in God, but doesn’t think it is neccessary to go to church. He thinks I should come to my faith in my own time. Well I’m ready but I don’t know where to start.
Hi,
I guess I want to start this reply by saying that I’m no authority on God or scripture, but I hope this helps. If you’re feeling the pull toward Him, don’t resist. I was raised agnostic–my mother is spiritual and my father is an atheist–and when I accepted Christ, it was the most freeing thing I had ever done. I never stopped questioning everything, as you said, but I found that for every question I have had, He has an answer. Going to Church helped me to realize when He was speaking and what He sounded like. I’m not saying that you have to dive in right away–I think He works on His own time. But if you do decide to go, remember that if the people there are judging you, you’re not going to the right church. They should accept you as a Sister in Christ and as the beautiful person that you are. I’d also be the first person to tell you that accepting Christ is not the same thing as being a moral person–my father has a very strict moral code that he adheres to. But accepting that Christ has paid my debts has made it so much easier for me to walk the narrow path. If you’re feeling like Church is the place to start, it’s probably the Spirit guiding you to that thought. It also helped me a lot to join a Bible study. I learned a lot about His Word in short order. So yeah. I hope this helps.
Syd, I’m so glad to hear the you are seeking God. That means that God is knocking on your heart to seek Him. The Bible is a good place to start to find Jesus. I’d suggest you start with the Gospel of John. But as you know that we are all sinners and how do we see God if he is perfection and cannot see sin. Well He sent His Son Jesus Christ to earth, He was born, lived and then died on the Cross for our sins, Jesus Christ died and shed His blood on the cross so that we have a way to see God. SO when we say this prayer. Dear Lord Jesus I know that I’m a sinner, please forgive me of my sins, (He will clean them from you as white as the snow) (never to be remebered again), and I believe that you are God’s Son, You died and shed Your blood on the cross for me, and from this day forward I will live for You. Thank you Jesus. AMEN! When you pray this prayer you have become a child of God, and all the angels of heaven rejoice. So Read John 5:24 Also to confirm what you said in prayer is: Christ came in toyou life Revelation 3:20 Colossians 1:27, Your sins were forgiven Colossians 1:14, You became a child of God john 1:12, and You recieved eternal life John 5:24 Welcome to the family of God. I hope this answers some of your questions. Feel free to contact me if you have questons, bkay@blackfoot.net In Christ name, Brenda
Hi Syd,
I was skimming throught the testimonies on the SheSeeks website (which I rarely get on) and found what you had to say. I don’t think it is coincidence that your testimony stuck out to me. My church has a sister church in Southern Pines, NC in which my grandma, aunts, and uncles attend. I go there often, last weekend actually. I would love to meet up with you next time I come or you could email me if you need someone to talk to. Ashleyanne017@hotmail.com
Syd,
I’m so glad you found this site, it is really encouraging. If you want someone to talk to, my email is pollio.allison@gmail.com.
I don’t know what’s going on in my life. It’s like as soon as I started praying for a partner all of the wrong guys turned up. Recently I’ve had run ins with guys that I dated a long time ago, and now they suddenly want to be friends. I’ve forgiven them for all the pain that they caused me and I’ve forgiven myself for the pain that I’ve caused them, but I want to move on now, I feel like I’ve grown and I’m becoming a women. My question is, how do you know when you’ve found the right guy? What would make him different from the others? Last week, I was chatting to a friend of mine, and I told him that I’m really afraid of frogs, mainly because I’ve bumped into so many of them. He laughed and said that I’ve gotta try out the frogs to catch my prince. I’m still 25 and waiting for this prince, but I realised that relationships are complicated and in as much as I don’t want to be alone anymore, and I don’t want to feel like I’m gonna grow old alone, I’m really afraid that I’m gonna make the wrong desicions and end up worst off then I am already. I need prayer, I need Jesus, I need help because I feel like I’m drowing in confusion…
Lost and alone, I can hear the sincerity in the cry you are making. While I am one of the fortunate ones who found someone young, I have known people who were (and some still are) struggling with the same thing. I will join in your prayer for Him to lead you. If you ever feel the need to talk, feel free to email me at godsbeloved110@yahoo.com.
Lost and Alone,
I understand where you are coming from. Before I met my husband, I had a few bad relationships. The main reason they were bad, was because we weren’t seeking God’s guidance like we should. We were selfish in our relationship and wanted to have God on the side I believe. While my relationship with my husband isn’t perfect, he’s the one God wanted me to with. We were just friends at the beginning and I invited him to a bible study I was going to. We both at the time just decided to be friends. So we started going there and hanging out and I prayed. “God if this is who you want me to be with, help me to fall in love with him.” Not joking, a few weeks later I started seeing him in a different way…in a love way. For me, that’s how I knew he was the one. I’m sure God has a different situation planned for you but if you put your full trust in Him to lead you, He will. And it will be something way more than you imagined. If God is in the center of your relationship, you will be set. Things might not always go well, but you’ll have Jesus to fall back on in the good, the bad, and the ugly. I pray He molds you into someone that pleases Him and I’m sure he has someone special in store. Just trust. Not that surface kind..but the letting go of everything kind of trust. Hang in there girl and let me know if need someone to listen. Email if you wanna chat more: andrea_miller0811@yahoo.com
Lost and Alone, my heart goes out to you. I can understand where you are coming from. I waited and waited to for the one that God made for me, and honestly, I almost gave up. I realized though that if I stop only seeking and searching for a man and spend that time seeking God with all of my heart, He would bring me the right person in His timing. I am now engaged to the greatest man I have ever met, the one that God made just for me.
God has the perfect plan for us that He will carry out in His perfect timing. We may not understand why He is making us wait, but if you focus on God and seek what He wants for you, you realize that everything He brings to you is well worth the wait! God has someone out there for you and will bring him into your life when He knows your ready. It does take faith and trust to wait on God, so prayer is definitely necessary. When that man comes into your life though that God has picked for you, he will be everything you could ever want and then some. God knows exactly what we need and what I have found, He goes above and beyond our expectations! I learned this when I met my fiance. He is so much better than what I had even pictured for myself! I will be praying for you and if you ever want to talk my email is amp504@hotmail.com. God be with you!
Hi Syd, Thanks for sharing your story! I feel for you and I’ll be praying for you! Feel free to email me if you want to talk. eustace.vf@gmail.com
I am stuck and some advice would be wonderful. I am from a christian home. I have always followed the Lord. When I got to college, I enjoyed the attention I received from guys because in high school I was only seen as prude. I met the guy I am currently dating. He is a wonderful christian man (who I found after going through a couple losers). But he is still a man. We are having trouble with our physical side of our relationship. I have tried to stop him, and then later find myself egging it on further. Things have gone too far (not sex), but close enough. The only way I can see to solve this is to break up with him (I have tried talking to him, asking others for advice, creating boundaries that become crossed — normally with a leap rather than a step, etc), but I don’t think that is the real solution. I think that would be running, but I hate that I am always the one to bring up the fact that things are going too fast. I want him to be the leader in the relationship, but I am a leader myself and have trouble keeping my mouth shut and stepping aside and allowing him to guide us. When I get into my devotions, I find myself feeling like I don’t deserve to be forgiven because of my repetitive sins. I know God forgives, but can he forgive when I continue in my sin? How do I be submissive to my boyfriend without being the leader and not being too submissive? How do I encourage his growth as a man of God?
I feel like the answer is going to be prayer and reading the Word. Well there is the next problem…. Where do I start? What should I read? How do I get over the overwhelming guilt when praying?
Then you say find a mentor… Well I am afraid of being judged.
I need some advice. I am Stuck!
Dear Stuck, I don’t really no what to say since I’ve never been in a relationship myself. I will be praying for you through this situation. Thanks for sharing! Know that God loves you and is ready to forgive you and have fellowship with you. (John 1:9) God has not called you to submit to your boyfriend until he is your husband. Feel free to email me at eustace.vf@gmail.com if you want to talk!
Dear Stuck,
I was in the same situation as you 7 years ago, when I began college as a freshman. I was dating a guy and it was so exciting and so hard to keep from wanting to be with him physically. We both pushed the boundaries. I joined a girls-only bible study that fall and the girls there encouraged me in love and did not judge me and did not even tell me what to do about my boyfriend. But one night, I felt the burden on my heart that I should break up with him, and I realized our sin was holding me back from a beautiful relationship with God (as you constantly feel with the guilt and stuff). I was so burdened I didn’t even feel like eating, and I knew for the first time in my life what it felt like to be burdened to fast. I didn’t fast, but I DID break up with my b/f. I was super sad and depressed for awhile, but God redeemed the time and began working on my heart and revealing himself to me in new ways. My mind began to clear, and a godly woman suggested that I pray that God would make me “unfamiliar” with the things I had experienced with my b/f. That year Jesus revealed himself to me through Scripture and I believed in him as fully God and fully man.
This is my encouragement to you: whether you feel guilty or not, Jesus already paid for your sin. To quote someone, “He paid for your guilt, your actual guilt. Not your guilt feelings.” So whether or not you feel guilty about your sin when you pray, know that God loves you and wants you to pray to him and has forgiven your sin already. The Holy Spirit is a deposit guaranteeing your salvation and he is still tugging at your heart. You are loved, and God is nice.
One more piece of advice – praise Him! Get some music that you love and your favorite worship CDs together and sing to the Lord. Then sit down and talk to Him. He will speak to you and you will be able to listen. You will know what to do in your heart because the Holy Spirit himself will tell you, and you will have peace.
I have struggle with finding love. Because in society it pressures us to be in a relationship. I’ve been here for about 22 years and there has never been a moment where i’ve love myself enough. I have been in relationship where guys just use me as a sexual object and that messed up my self-esteem pretty badly. In this world were living in it’s all about the standards of beauty. Everybody isn’t made with blonde hair and blue eyes especially me. I’m brown skin with dark brown hair with a figure on me. I have made a promise to myself that i will not let a man especially disrespect myself or thinks it’s okay to use me as a object. And i will no longer settle for less either. During the time i have been waiting on god to send me the right man that is made for me. I am more focus on how can i make myself happy and love myself more. And accomplish my dreams and goals and not think about how a man can complete me. Because either ways it goes at the end of the day i want to be happy with who i am. My relationship and trust with god has gotten better i pray about the good and bad. But i also thank him for what he has done for me in my life. I may not look like Kim kardashian or Beyonce, Halle Berry. But i have realize that god has made me in his own image. And i’m just realizing now that i don’t want to waste my time or life on thinking about why guys do the things that they do or am i pretty enough or good enough. No right now i am focusing on me and worrying about the things that i can control and leave the things that i can’t control about myself alone. But i know that god has a plan for me and a brighter future for me. But i would love to touch a whole lot of young women about feeling good about themselves and also enjoying being single. When your by yourself you have the freedom to be you. I don’t have to constantly change for anybody else anymore or wake up crying worrying about if a man loves me or not. I’m greatful to have god in my life. And i’m glad that he loves me unconditionally it doesn’t matter how much money i have or how i look. He loves me no matter what i have done in my past. I’m glad that i’m changing my life for the better. And i’m proud to say that i feel good. And i’m not going to let anyone stop or say anything either.
Here goes…. I’m 27, single and still live at home. I go to church occasionally but find other things that seem to be more important like just sleeping late. I do believe there is a God, I just struggle with my beliefs. I was saved at a younger age and have over the years distanced myself from God. Its hard for me to understand..Have faith…Pray…listen to God…..And here I am now feeling sorry for myself wondering what is Gods plan for me? My sisters are married with kids and I just question myself daily WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!! WHY CAN’T I FIND LOVE. Yes, I’ve been involved with alot of Guys only to feel better about myself. I was with a guy for 2 years and wondered why he didn’t want to marry me, when really I knew deep down it was because I’m an alcholic and I cared about nothing. I’m an addict, and I’ve been to rehab for my drinking problem. I’ve also had a depression problem since my teenage years. I always feel like I have to drink to be around a guy because he won’t like the real me. I know this is all scattered but I read the posts and really enjoyed all the feedback. I ask that ya’ll pray for me as I try and pray and understand myself. Thanks for listening
Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. That takes a lot of courage. I don’t really know what to say…forgive me if my words come out wrong. Remember that God will never give up on you. His love is the everlasting kind of love. It reaches high to the sky and low to the earth. It’s a covenant love, a love that endures. I think God is longing for you to come and sit with him for a while…to experience deeper intimacy with Him and Him alone…He is the ultimate Lover. Ask him from the depths of your soul to draw you closer and He will. He will answer you. “Set me as a seal upon your heart, As a seal upon your arm; For love is as strong as death.” -Song of Solomon 8:6 Honestly, the process of commitment to Him may be painful. There are many things in my life-sins that He has shown me are getting in the way of intimacy with Him and it’s been difficult to walk away from those things. Very difficult. I’ve been through and may still be going through depression and loneliness. I’ve struggled and still do struggle with with bitterness and jealousy. But God has never left my side. He has always been there, and He has always been Faithful.
“The LORD your God in your midst,
The Mighty One, will save;
He will rejoice over you with gladness,
He will quiet you with His love,
He will rejoice over you with singing.” -Zephaniah 3:17
Hi everyone,
I am new to this site, but I am really in the need of prayer so I wanted to share a bit of my secret struggle. I have been plagued for years with sexual sin. It all started when I was very young. Satan planted a seed very early in me. From a young age I was attracted to pornography and perverse acts. I’m not sure how it started, sometimes I feel as if maybe I was molested and I’ve blocked it out or something because I was 4 years old when it all began. It makes me sick to my stomach when I think of the things I’ve done. I know I am forgiven but I feel I’ve carried the baggage and when confronted with certain things, even a simple commercial and trigger memories of the things I did and I feel so condemned all over again. I don’t know how to shake these feeling and one day, if the Lord blesses and I have a husband, I fear I won’t be able to be as intimate as I wanted because I can’t shake the feeling something was done to me or some how at 4 I was that disgustingly evil and put this all 100% on myself. I just don’t know. Anyway I need prayer to let this go and move on with my life and stop carrying the baggage of my past. I also need to prayer abot having a strong prayer life and relationship with Christ in general. I still struggle with some sexual immorality, not as dark as my childhood but things like pornography and actions that come along with that. Please pray for me to be loosed from this pain and struggle and stronghold and leave a life of purity for Christ! I refuse to bring this attitude into my 2012, I want to leave the darkness behind and chase after His light!
Thank you and God Bless!
Kia,
First, please know that you are not abnormal for feeling the way you do. Being attracted to pornography is fairly common, even among Christian women, and in many cases, it was preceded by sexual abuse or even just exposure to explicit materials before you were able to discern what you were seeing. The fact that this started at a very young age for you may indicate, as you yourself said, that there may have been inappropriate contact with you of a sexual nature when you were still a child. It is definitely important for you to have prayer support and perhaps accountability by someone you trust. (Easier sometimes to say than to find!) Every time you view porn, it is further imprinting in your minds eye, and ultimately your heart that will make future relationships difficult, especially in the area of intimacy. It’s also important for you to consider therapy from a counselor, someone who can walk with you through your formative years. You may not be able to recall any specific instances of abuse and that’s okay. God will allow things in His timing. The important thing here is in acknowledging that you are living a “less than” life that is full of shame because of baggage that you are carrying. God knows where you’re at and He knows your struggles to keep your thoughts from straying, from clicking the button on the computer that so easily brings the images to you. He has been with you throughout anything that has ever happened and compassionately waits to continue walking a healing journey with you. Trust me on this… I’ve been where you are and it is HARD, but not impossible to experience healing. Sometimes you’ll have really good days or weeks, then find yourself sliding back into the abyss. That’s where real friendships can be super helpful- with someone who won’t judge you by your failures. Anne Jackson has talked very openly about sexual addictions in the church: http://www.outofur.com/archives/2009/04/anne_jackson_ba.html You may find some of her comments helpful. Praying for you, Kia.
Thank you so much for this JD! I truly appreciate it! Your comments and prayer means a lot! God Bless you and thank for the resources.
I’ve been really encouraged by this website, seeing such encouraging words from such Godly women! Here’s my situation: I’m a 24 year old who has never been in a relationship before. I have a relationship with Christ and am trying really hard to trust in Him and His timing. I know that God does things in His own way and in His own time, but it’s just so hard to be 24 years old and single when everyone around you isn’t. It’s especially hard knowing that you’ve never been on a date or been in a relationship. Sometimes I feel like an unattractive freak because of the fact that I’ve never had a boyfriend.
I met a guy in September who I like. He’s a student pastor at a school a few hours away from me. I don’t know him all that well. The only times I’ve seen him is when he came to my church to preach. And those two times he came, I hardly talked to him cause I was so nervous. We’re friends on Facebook and play Words with Friends on our phones. We’ve talked through Facebook messages a few times and written on each other’s wall, but I still don’t know him that well.
I have no idea if he likes me, but I have such strong feelings for him. From what I know about him, he seems to be everything I want in a guy. My belief is that a girl shouldn’t pursue a guy, but a guy should pursue a girl. I want to talk to him a get to know him better but I don’t want to be the one that initiates conversations. Sometimes I tell myself that he’s shy so that’s why he doesn’t initiate contact. Should I just take it as a hint that he doesn’t like me like that or should I just contact him first?
It’s highly likely that he doesn’t even like me and that’s okay with me. I would be fine with being just friends. So should I just go ahead and contact him since it’s more likely we’ll be just friends?
Please pray for me as I sort through this situation. God knows my heart and my desires and I know that He will but someone in my life in His time. Pray that I am patient enough to wait on what God has in store for me!
Good day beautiful ladies! Trusting that everyone had a great christmas! Today I would just like to Thank God for this opportunity to be able to freely express myself. Over the past few weeks I’ve looked through some of my earlier and I wondered what my future husband would think if he read some of them. I wonder whether he would judge me for being addicted to pronograpy at one point in my life, or whether he would honour me for the enormous amount of strenght, fights and prayers that I fought for so that I could be clean today. I wonder whether he would understand my desperation to be in a relationship through many of my posts as reflected on this website, or whether he would look down on me for being “weak”. And then I realised that if he truely loves me he will accept me with my past baggage and all. I’m 25 and I’ve never been in a serious relationship and for most of life and prayed and cried for love to no avail. And then recently a lovely lady on this site by the name of Amy told me that the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. I’ve finally realised the importance of being single. There is no need to panic or be confused about it, instead embrace it because it’s a season wherein we learn the most about who we are. If you reading this and you single, trust me when I say that God will never leave you in a place of confusion, instead He will use it to make you wiser and stronger. I’m still waiting on God for my partner and I look back to as recent as a few days ago, when I was praying about guys that I had met, who on face value seemed perfect. But once I got to know them better, I realised that they are really not that perfect for me, and any relationship with any of them would have only resulted in heart break. We often see only that which we want to see but God sees further, He sees the future, He sees the obstacles that two people in a relationship would need to face, and He sees the person who can truely face those obstacles long side you. So today I encourage you to just wait upon the Lord, He will give you more than you can think or imagine if you do! I love you!
Hey girls! How are y’all today? For the most part I guess I’m ok. I just feel like a fool alot of the time. Not for anything bad realy. It’s just the little things. Things I say and do that upset other people and frustrait them and make them mad at me. I HATE for people to be mad at me. I know everybody has moments like that. But, It seems to that have more than most people I know.
I also feel a little confused at some things that God is doing in my life that I don’t understand. It’s hard being young sometimes. Heind sight is 20/20, but, when your young, you don’t have heind sight. I guess that’s the whole point though; I need to trust God even though I don’t understand and can’t see what he’s doing.
Jo,
Girl, I cannot tell you how much I understand. I am a very upbeat person, but I do lack some self-confidence at times. Due to this lack, in excitement of new things, I have a tendency of being an innocent boaster and often hurt others. I am known for saying the wrong thing quite often and not realizing until later that I hurt someone. Your comment speaks right to me because it made me realize that this is something I can fix. God is with us always honey. All we can is first, ask God to forgive us when we say things to hurt others. Than we must ask then for forgiveness. Explain to them that it is something you are working on and ask them to help by holding you accountable for things you say. Ask for their support. If they gawk at your apology and request, that is their doing, but you have done all that God requires of us and He has forgiven you. It’s not an easy road to be young. Trust me, I am right with you. Just hold on to your faith and remember what God tells us in John 16:33: “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world”.
Take care sweetie and thank you for helping me realize that I am not alone!
With love,
Brooklyn
Hey Brooklyn! Thanks for your reply, it ment alot to me.
So glad honey! Just keep your head up and faith in your heart. God will be with you, He never leaves you!
Good morning ladies!
I cannot tell you how blessed I feel to have found this part of Proverbs 31 Ministries! This opporunity to pray with and for fellow sisters in Christ is such a blessing, and it is none too late! My best friend recently asked me what my goal for the new year was. I told her, simply, that my goal was to bless God daily in my actions, thoughts, and speech, as He has blessed me so thoroughly! I cannot believe how blessed I am. I am 24-years old and married the love of my life in April 2010. He is a Godly man and absolutely adores and loves me. I have a large, loving, and might I say, very eccentric family that is so supportive, and I was blessed to have my husband’s wonderful family to add to that. I am healthy and fit and strive to be that way simply to feel good about myself and to ensure that I stay healthy as I get older. I am a full-time student in an education program as well as having a wonderfully fulfilling job with the State of MS helping those with disabilities. As said before, I could not be more blessed.
Yet, I struggle..the devil is constantly bating me and tempting me. I love my husband, yet I have allowed myself so many times to let both our pasts put a small wedge in our marriage. I’m not even sure he is aware of it. It hurts so much because I know that God brought us together and I can see our beautiful future, yet I cannot seem to focus all of my attentions on him. I would never have an affair, but I will be honest and say that I have allowed myself to get in a place in my heart where it is almost justified. My husband is still struggling with demons from a previous marriage where he was hurt substantially, and the devil pushes and pushes him until he breaks. He can be such a negative and untrusting person, whereas I am famously positive (my co-workers just LOVE me in the mornings haha) and very trusting of poeple. His negativity towards life and our relationship has taken its toll and I have found myself forming a friendship with a man from work. I know that I would never allow myself to let anything else come from it, but I know that my behavior is a bit too friendly and not appropriate. I seem to look forward to seeing him and talking to him because we have so much in common and he makes me feel so good about myself. He is a nice guy, but, unbeknowest to him, the devil is using him in a way that is not good for my marriage. I know what I must do and ask that you, my sisters, will help me through this. I want to be the wife that God has called me to be. I am a loyal and good woman and know that that the feelings I think I have are NOT in my heart, but in my mind. I know that both I and my husband have changes to make, individually and as husband and wife. I also know that it starts with me. I know that I must shape myself in God’s image and be that Proverbs 31 wife. I know I can, I just need support and prayer. I truly feel so blessed to have found this forum to finally share, without fear of judgement, what I have been struggling with. I thank you in advance for your prayers and support.
With love for my fellow sisters in Christ,
Brooklyn
I am so much impressed by how positive you are in your christian life as well as your marriage.What you are going through is so common to many peoples but God has always been faithful to help His children.I was listening to one message of integrity that fully changed my life.She defined integrity as follows.Integrity is saying “that i can but i wount”.I have also learned to always look for s/thing positive in a person and help them improve on their weakness.I ts not easy but it always work.I ts my prayer that you will have a wonderful home as you desires.God bless you so much.
Thank you so very much for your encouragement and prayers. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone in my struggles!
Hi Ladies!
My name is Krystle, I am new to this website, and currently engaged! It is great to finally have found a website with Godly women!
Congratulations, Krystle!!
Hello my amazing sisters! My name is Nicole and I am an intern at a youth missions organization. During my internship I will be a missionary to the young people of America, helping with Acquire the Fire youth events and Teen Mania mission trips. The cost of the program is $700 per month, or $8400 total. This includes food, housing, utilities, books, training, retreats and road expenses for Teen Mania related activities.
I have never been on a missions trip before or needed to raise money for anything. I was hoping you women would be able to help me out with fundraising ideas and how to find sponsors.
Any suggestions would be appreciated!!
Thank You,
Nicole
Hi everyone… I’m new to She Speaks but I really like what I see! I’m here to seek some Godly advice and encouragement. I’m currently working full time in an insurance office, 40 hours a week. I began working there seven months ago when I got married and had to move away from my job at that time in real estate, where I worked 30 hrs a week and ran my own photography business. Shortly after being married and starting a job I hoped would only be temporary, my husband was laid off and with our goals to be debt free (now accomplished) and purchase a house soon I’ve stayed at this new job. My husband was out of work for almost three months but is now at a new job making minimum wage and working seven days a week. I’m so proud of him, taking a lessor job than he had and working so hard to pay our bills and set aside money for a downpayment on a home.
With all of this being said, I’m looking for some help because I want nothing more than to quit my job most days. I come home from the job feeling emotionally taxed after dealing with problem after problem at the office (and dealing with angry customers), feeling like the job has stolen away all my free time as I now have little time before bed to exercise, work on my photography, or even socialize with friends. I feel really bad because when I come home, I find it hard to be happy and enjoy time with my husband. Just tonight we got home around 6:30 and I couldn’t even work up the emotional stability to cook our dinner. I wanted to sit on the couch and cry, maybe go to bed early.
What am I to do? I’ve been praying so hard lately, asking for the strength to make it through the day, praying the Lord would show me how to be content in my situation because the money is helpful to us but I simply can’t get past the feelings of despair, tiredness, and the feeling this job is sucking my life and happiness from me. I want to have a better attitude, I want to come home happy for my husband and encourage and support him, but I just feel so taxed…What shall I do?
Mandy,
Oh, Girl- I have been there! So sorry this is such a struggle for you.
Fortunately, I have the benefit of hindsight and can maybe share some thoughts with you.
God’s goal is to make us “Christ-like”- learning how to develop and grow the fruits of the spirit in whatever circumstance He allows us to be in. It sounds like you and your husband have been in a rough patch and yyet you are seeing His provision. The provision is perfect, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
For years, I suffered greatly through a job that I absolutely HATED. Like you, every night I would go home feeling like the life was sucked out of me. It was emotionally draining (because I felt like I should be doing something “better”) and exhausting. I prayed for God to change my circumstances (for years!) and then one day I prayed for God to change ME. Remember how the people of Israel grumbled about the manna God gave them every morning? The job you have right now is the job that God has given you as a way to stabilize your household and to help fulfill your goals.
You could choose to give up on some of your financial goals to be able to return to your lower paying real estate position and your photography, and that is a real and totally viable option.
If you choose to stay in it, then here are some of the things I did to stay sane:
- Prepare meals on the weekend. Knowing ahead of time that I was going to be exhausted, I would freeze pre-made meals, then thaw them in the crock pot while I worked. In the same vein- simplify your life. Think of things that can be streamlined: cleaning especially. Develop a system so that when you get home, you don’t have anything you HAVE to do.
- Get a gratitude list going and share it with someone. There has to be SOMETHING about the job that is good. Remember, there is nothing in our experiences that goes to waste. God will use people you are meeting, skills you are learning or character you are developing at some other time in your life.
- For that same reason, take the long view. There may be someone at your current job who needs to know Jesus. You may be the only Jesus-with-hands-and-feet that they ever know. If you can think of your discomfort as a cost of being a missionary for the gospel, that can sometimes help.
- Take the time coming home from work to transition. I got into a habit of listening to soothing music the moment I hit the car so that even in the 5 minutes of commute time, I was able to pray, give the day back to God and chill out.
-Take care of yourself. Breathing is good.
Give yourself an allotted amount of time to cry or vent, then let it go. Surrender this time to God. Grieve the loss of your “old” life. Get enough sleep. Get outside. Exercise. Make time for the photography on the weekend. Watch out for shadow comforts- those things we turn to (like food or on-line shopping) to numb our unhappiness. Any life change is stressful and we don’t always aknowledge that enough.
Mandy, I know you will get through this time. There is a LOT of opportunity in the midst of what looks like a bad thing. You are going to grow in wisdom and character for sure.
I want to end with this: That job I hated so much? After years of misery, it became a huge blessing. It always was, but I didn’t see it at the time. I had great insurance when my daughter got very sick and had multiple hospitalizations; my schedule was fairly flexible, allowing me to deal with things like that; I was able to counsel the executive secretary and lead her to Christ; I was there for this same woman and had words of hope when her daughter was involved in a bad crash; I learned to be content in at least this circumstance. I am a better woman and a better Christian because of this *terrible* job… and I am still here and enjoying it.
Blessings-
JD
JD,
I needed that so much. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement and support. You have no idea how that touched me!
Hang in there… You’re in my prayers tonight.
:)
Mandy,
Stress and depression are your enemies. You can ask God to teach you how to overcome them. I would also like to recommend some books that might help you:
“The Bible Cure for Stress” – Don Colbert, MD
“The Bible Cure for Depression & Anxiety” – Don Colbert, MD
Hey my sisters,
Im in the deepest struggle of my life, and truthfully dont have anyone to turn to, except God at this point. Just recently God has brought The most amazing christian man & myself together. We have been excluseively dating for almost 2 months now, and I can honestly say, This was meant to be. As this man is a strong christian leader, and i am a strong christian support. Sounds like theres no struggle, i know. Here is the part that hurts my heart to no end, He has just recently revealed to me that he is recovering & managing his recently diagnosed bipolar disorder. I never thought much of bipolar disorder until now. It just hurts me to the point i cry myself to sleep almost every night. God has shown me many scriptures and revelations on His purpose; and its no coincidence we are meant to be in each others lives. But truth is, my sisters, I’m scared. The man i’ve fallen in love with is amazing, strong, God-fearing, calm, and honorable. I would have never known if he had never told me. Im praying that there is a woman that reads this, and has wisdom on this subject. Because i am willing to work through this with him, even though it means sacrificing my hope for a “normal” marriage life. This man is so sincere, and deserves the best, but i’m so hurt that God would put such a burden on such an amazing man. It hurts me so deep inside, Im crying out for help. Just guidance on what to expect or how to begin to embrace such a major thing. I know it is all for God’s glory, but the pain and frustration is still unbearable. We were on our ways to the most beautiful marriage & lives together, and now it feels as if that has all been put to a stop. Please if anyone has any insight, i need it so deeply. My heart has never been this torn.
Hi Catherine,
I have bipolar disorder myself, and I have all faith that your relationship will survive it. I won’t lie to you–it’s going to be a difficult journey. But if God really intends for the two of you to be together, He will find a way to make it work. If you have any questions about bipolar disorder or maintaining a healthy relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder, feel free to email me: erin.e.brown1987@gmail.com
Catherine,
Perhaps it was haulted for a reason. Do you know for sure that this is the man God wants you to marry? Sometimes you can become so convinced of something you think God wants you to do because you’ve based your decisions on your emotions. Be careful not get so swept away by the “i’m so in love – we are meant for each other” emotion that you ignore what the Holy Spirit is telling you. Remember, what your emotions tell you and what God has for you can be two different things! I would strongly advise praying and waiting on God’s answer for your particular situation (until you know absolutely-without-a-doubt). Having a little patience in a matter that requires a very important decision will not hurt. Remember, do not be anxious!
[Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. - Phil. 4:6-7]
I would also suggest you spend some time away from him in prayer and seeking the Lord for guidance. It will help you sort your thoughts and emotions out. In the meantime, if you really want to help him, then it might be a good idea to go to your local Christian book store, find the section on dealing with bi-polar disorders, and picking out a few books that might be very beneficial for him.
I am praying that you will find yourself in the arms of the man that God has purposed just for you and that you will be the woman that God has intended for you to be!
Jessie W.
Hey lady, first and foremost I am praying this situation no longer robs you of your joy! Life is too short to grow up fast
Next, I’m going to give you a Social Worker’s answer, ok? It’s totally normal for you to be intimidated by mental health issues, such as BPD. Especially if there isn’t mental illness in your circle of family or friends. As the two of you continue to pray for a future, find who you can lean on for support. I strongly recommend processing your emotions and confusion with a Christian counselor, who can help you navigate this tough decision. It definitely sounds like you don’t want this to break up what you have together. That being said, start educating yourself about BPD as it may empower and motivate you to support him in this area. And at the end of the day, God is always in charge. So dry those tears, say some prayers, and trust Him to see both of you to your Promised Land! Have peace, sister 
Hi ladies! My name is Destinee, Iam 24 , happily married for two years to my highschool sweetheart, no kids.mI currently reside in NC where I currently belong to a wonderful church that provides great knowledge in learning God’s will. I am very happy I found Sheseeks by researching the Proverbs31 site. Your organization sums it up with where I am in my life both spiritually and earthly. I am seeking to find peace in being a young 20 something in Christ. It has been hard going through this journey with out girlfriends that are on the same page. I parted with my old friends as they were not equally yoked and definitely miss the “girl time”. My husband is a great man and partner in Christ but as he is a man he doesn’t understand the desire of the desire of friendship I miss as he has brothers in Christ. So I want to get involved any way possible through she seeks and locally. I also want to learn all that I can to be a more confident Christian woman. I have prayed about this for about two years as that is about the time I have turned my life over to God. My church’s goal for 2012 is this is the year of God’s manifested goodness and I definitely want to experience it more and help others seek the goodness…
Erin is a 20something single who enjoys coffee&&shops, doing stuff for others, traveling, trying new things and definitely knows the meaning of “everything happens for a reason”! I’m striving to get closer to God, been a Christian for awhile, go to church and do what He wants, but there’s SOOOO much more intimacy I’m missing out on. I believe He wants me to go on a mission trip this year as well as memorize more scripture and read through the Bible. I WILL be all that God wants me to be and experience all there is in life…praying all along for the man of His dreams (and mine!)
Im so happy to have found this site! Im 26, married with 2 toddlers! I was saved when I was in 8th grade, but my walk with God has not been very steady since that time. My husband and I have had periods of time that we were not faithfully following God. We strayed so far that we even considered divorce. After finally surrendering my life, heart, soul and marriage completely to God, He has worked in a mighty mighty way in our lives and I am sooooo thankful! I have found joy, peace and love that I never knew was even possible. Now that Jesus saved our marriage, He has poured an uncontional love in my heart for my husband that has resulted in us having a marriage that I couldnt have dreamt up myself.
At this point I am so determined to continue feeding my heart and soul with God’s truth and with positive people in my life! This site is an answered prayer!
I ask that you ladies keep me in your prayers as I will keep all of you in mine.
My email address lanaleos.acquire@gmail.com in case anyone would like to talk or pray together.
God is Love,
Lana
Hi Everyone,
I am so happy to have found this site right now! I should be at church services right now instead, but recently in life I’ve been so discouraged or unmotivated to attend church because the lack of people my own age there or lack of mission activities available. I already love this site and love that it’s dedicated to people my age (24). I’ve been told by elders that because the path is narrow, many times I will find myself amongst older people with little to no younger people in site. I guess this is true to an extent, but in my heart I just know there are fellow Christians out there in my age group that seek the truth in the Lord and I want to meet and study with them!
I am a native Floridian and have been stuck here my entire life (Clearwater, FL). Dying to get out! I work full time and have taken a hiatus from school but hope to get back in classes ASAP. I love the beach, road trips, art and I love the Lord. For a long time I wanted God to use me as his instrument to help others seeking Him. I struggled with this because I didn’t feel confident teaching Sunday school class and didn’t really know my place in the physical church, I was lost in that aspect of my faith. But, recently I developed an online retail consignment store where a portion of the sales will go to organizations that help end human trafficking world wide through Jesus Christ! It’s still in the works but I prayed about it and I think this is how God is using me. This is cause that I care deeply about and I pray that God will see it through to be a success so that there can be an end to human trafficking through faith in Him.
I’m so happy to read all of these posts, although feel like I may be the only unmarried girl with no children. Well, I take that back, I have do have two kids. Roxi and Summer..they are furry snow dogs and I love them to pieces..and they are pretty good preparation for motherhood, you could say
Please e-mail me MissAshleyH@Gmail.com if you would like to talk/study/pray
I am a home educating mom of 4 boys, wife of hottie Scottie, Bible lovin chic, who likes to have fun and be funny…I see the world uniquely and through God’s plan ….I want to share my perspective with whoever cares! I have a Vlog w/encouragement from my 18 yrs of trials & study. http://www.tamerystafford.com
Ps. I was one of the 1st official employees of P31 back in the day, this is a gr8 ministry!
If you love something let it go. If it comes back its yours if it doesn’t it never was. Ecclesiastes 3; 1-8
I really love this site and the encouraging people that are here. I am 25 years old, from a small town in cali, the daughter of a pastor so needless to say I have been in church my whole life. Unfortunately my life doesnt reflect that of what most people would think of the daughter of a pastor. I am going through a super rough time in my life and hoping that God can still turn the ugly into something beautiful. I have been a very insecure person for so long and have now been married twice and just recently my 2nd marriage is now ending as well. It was not a good relationship, it took me a long time to realize and admit but he was verbally and sometimes physically abusive but I kept hoping that things would work out, but God can only change someone who is willing to do so. I think for so long I have been inpatient and making my own path instead of waiting on the Lord and his time and now the consequences are hard to bear. Im trying to keep my focus on the Lord and the love I know he has and I know that I am not alone but it is so hard through the diffucult times to see that. And I know I am lucky to have a great family but unfortunately I dont really have any close christian girlfriends right now, seems like they are hard to find these days! Please if everyone could just keep me in their prayers I would really appreciate it!
Hi Alisha! Thanks for sharing your story and I will pray…Thanks for asking! It is hard to be close with friends these days because everyone is so busy. I pray that God will bless you with godly friendships though! God delights to give good gifts to His children. I pray that he will help you through this difficult time and you will come out stronger. God loves to take impossible situations and use them for His glory.
Hebrews 4:15-16- For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Love you sister and hope things start looking up for you!
Hello everyone! My name is Samantha but you can call me Sam. I am 22 and I live in a really boring state in the Midwest/Great Lakes Region.
Anyway, I have a lot of things on my mind, so I am just going to try and sum up each difficulty I am currently experiencing.
First, I am painfully lonely. I have one friend and she lives in New Jersey. I recently ended a friendship because I was tired of being the back-up friend, the friend with connections, the friend who is blamed for everything that went wrong in our friendship and she always put me down because I wasn’t in school. She would purposefully say things that she knew I wouldn’t understand, and then when I asked about it she replied so arrogantly that it left me feeling like I was nothing of value. I am angry, hurt, sad and honestly, vengeful. I know it’s wrong, but I really do want to hurt her the way she hurt me everyday last year. I compensate for lacking a social life by spending copious amounts of time on the internet, reading blogs, articles, watching Youtube videos and spending hours discussing various topics with people from all over the world. It is all well and good, and it does give a me sense of self worth (more on that in a minute) but at the end of the day, I am still alone and lonely. It’s been this way for about five years. And I know I should spend time with God in times like these, but I am angry at him for making me this isolated. I can see no purpose or reason why I should be this lonely and upset.
Secondly, I am smart. I love learning. I am attracted to intelligence above all things in people. I have tried to do the college thing three different times, studying 3 different things and it goes well in the first term but I slowly descend into failure and it just eats me up inside. My teachers talk to me and I know they are trying to encourage me, but my mind also takes it as very harsh criticism. And then at the end of the term when grades are posted, they’re not good enough for financial aide renewal and I am mad at myself for portraying myself as stupid. Here’s the thing, I know stuff, a lot of stuff. I can also make logical and concise points and have intelligent conversations with people about various things. I can also usually remember a lot of details about something I find interesting. I guess my problem is I hate all the extra stuff, which is the stuff I don’t understand, like maths and sciences. I also despise over analyzing, which is what a majority of the art lectures I have attended do. I have a hard time writing about things I have to write about, with a few exceptions. My last English class I took I had to write a paper about the community I live in, that’s hard for me because I have very few positive things to say about where I live and I also just really don’t care enough. So my point is, why can people who feel the same way I do about certain aspects of school, and yet still succeed? Why can’t I fake it? (Note: When giving me advice, do not patronise me by saying, ‘You don’t need a college degree to be successful’ unless you have a very valid example, because I know better.) So when I fail a class, I take it as a slight to my intelligence.
Finally, I seem to be living in an eternal paradox. I want to give up and let go and let God but I don’t know how to. I also trust that God knows what the best thing for me, but I can’t give him control and I also don’t want to because I find it terrifying to not be in control. And finally, I get so angry at God when I hear about Him performing miracles in other peoples’ lives by curing cancer and saving them from financial ruin and etc. but why I can’t have the small miracle of a friend or a job? And why does my closest friend in the world have to have a little baby boy who is so fragile when he gets sick he has to be Med-Flighted to the intensive care unit? Why can’t he just be happy and healthy?
So there are my issues any serious advice will be much appreciated. Thanks.
Sam
Sam,
It sounds like you are really dealing with a lot.
Concern #1: True and dependable friends are really hard to find. I’ve had difficulty with that as well. I have friends that live other places but only one that lives near me. Fortunately, she wanted me to go to an event with her so I got to meet a whole group of people and hang out with them some too. I met her through church, it’s a good place to start. This website is another good place to get to know other people. Also, just be yourself and don’t let what other people say put you down because you are a valuable person.
Concern #2: I know 3 people who don’t have college degrees who are doing relatively well, 2 of them are young too. College degrees aren’t everything in the world, universities are businesses looking for money so they like to make people think degrees are important. 1 of the 3 people I was talking about earlier is actually really smart and makes more sense to me than people whove been to school.
Concern #3: My advice to you is faithfully pray and trust Him. Try to give Him control. I know it’s easy to think that you’re asking for something small and that it should have happened already. Be Patient. I moved home in 2009 and started looking and praying for a job. It took me until August 2011 to find one. My point is: miracles can take time and God will allow it when the right time comes. I’ve had it happen over and over again in my life. To be honest, about your friend’s baby-there is no easy explanation for that, but just because he is not healthy now, doesn’t mean that will always be the case.
If you want to talk, my email is pollio.allison@gmail.com
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